Picking the intervention method that works best for you
Books, the web, and just about everyone you encounter all have countless tips and tricks to share. Among other things, these tips and tricks can be discipline, sleep, or food-related and they may or may not apply to your situation. A simple Google search pertaining to whatever it is you are having trouble with will yield numerous blog posts as well as several university and educational websites with information that may or may not be helpful. Some will state you should adopt a certain method while others will claim the opposite. Some websites will try very hard to convince you their method is best while others will tell you it’s not worth the effort. How can you make sense of it all?
Whenever you face a problem or difficulty with your child or a child you care for, searching for a solution is natural. Wanting to resolve the situation is proof of your love and devotion. In fact, you most likely want to find THE solution that will reduce the frequency or even make the child’s problematic behaviour disappear and therefore make room for joy and a sense of well-being.
It’s very important that you select a method you are comfortable with. That’s my first piece of advice. In fact, since children, parents, and early childhood educators are all unique, it will be the only piece of advice I provide in this article. Your interventions must therefore reflect your values. A method that some may see as an extraordinary solution can clash with one or more of your values and even make you uncomfortable.
No matter the difficulty you face, no matter which method you decide is best, you must always be comfortable. To resolve a situation, you must be convincing and have confidence in your abilities. If you choose a method that you are not comfortable with, children will notice your discomfort and you will not see results. You must be certain about your choice for children to feel that you are “serious” about your interventions. They will be less tempted to test your limits. At the very least, they will quickly understand that testing them will never lead to a positive outcome.
After reading this, I hope that the next time you must pick a method or intervention technique you will stop and ask yourself if you are comfortable using the method you are learning towards. If you are, go ahead and put it into action. On the other hand, if you discover that you aren’t comfortable with it, try to find another solution.
Be at peace with your decisions. That is the first essential step towards resolving a difficult situation.
Keep this in mind.
Maude Dubé, Specialized educator